Who Says ‘Cleaner’ is Better?

Have you been in a relationship where arguments about cleaning the house are driving everyone crazy?

Let’s talk about it. One of you prioritizes things being a lot more organized and clean than the other and suddenly what feels like it should be simple is leading to resentment, frustration, and shame. Now throw some neurodiversity in there- if either of you has OCD, and/or anxiety, and/or ADHD, how does that play into the mix?

Here’s what I see - it’s  often a push on the person who tends to be more traditionally neat and clean to feel they are constantly pulling extra weight, nagging and nudging the other, and the other feeling like they can’t get a break, don’t have space, are misunderstood, or feel treated like a child. But, and maybe this is radical, who says CLEANER IS BETTER?