Moving the Boulder
Ever feel like there’s that one thing in your life that feels massive, insurmountable, overwhelming? That one project you’ve been wanting to do for years… The one task at work you’ve been wanting to let go… Or maybe the one resolution you’ve been aiming for but just haven’t taken the leap. And you’re so hard on yourself! “What’s wrong with me that I’ve obsessed about this for years?” “Why am I such a lazy procrastinator?” But then, just as you start to feel like at least everything else is okay, you realize there’s a whole bunch of other little things ‘taking up space’- not just your physical space, but your mental energy too. The little piles of paper. The to-do lists in different places. Piles of shoes or laundry or toys or snacks that never quite find their proper resting place. That’s because when you’re feeling like things aren’t quite in order, there’s often a bunch of things in disarray.
Here’s the thing. It might feel like it takes one massive push to get that boulder in motion. But it’s not. The ONLY way I have seen for most people to make concrete, exciting shifts- real lifestyle shifts- is through tiny, baby steps done consistently over time. (per This Year I will) The thing is, we often think of our Boulder as one thing, when it is, in fact, often comprised of a dozen smaller pieces. Can’t figure out why you aren’t working out? It’s just about deciding to work out, right? No. It’s figuring out what type of activity you’ll do, and whether it’s on your own, or with a partner, or at a gym. And if it’s the latter, then It’s looking into gyms, and finding what is in your price range, in your area, with appropriate hours. Then it’s figuring out your schedule. Then it’s making sure you have the clothes, water bottle, and whatever else you need.
Heard of the “twenty second rule”? Make your daily tasks twenty seconds easier for yourself- set out your child’s lunchbox and containers the night before. Pick out your workout clothes. Decide what you’ll have for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. The little concerted steps are all it takes but they are hard it must be done consistently. However, the great news is, once that Boulder is in motion, it picks up speed on its own and starts rolling almost effortlessly—so much so, that I often find myself urging clients a few months in to honor how far they’ve come- to recognize it- because it begins to just feel like the new normal. But, I caution you, don't let that Boulder stop. You have to keep it in motion. It's constant daily change but it doesn't feel like as much of an effort after a while more of a consciousness.
So here’s what to do:
· Decide exactly what your Boulder is. (or pick ONE!)
· Break it down into tiny parts—I suggest pieces that take no more than twenty minutes
· Put one, and only one, on your calendar for tomorrow
· And the next day, and the next day
· Mark the day on your calendar that the pieces will be complete, and your boulder will be in motion
· Tell someone else (making your goal public, with the right people, can dramatically increase your change dramatically of following through)
· Do it right now.
Acknowledge your efforts. Your are human. You are beautiful.
Dawn Camacho is the founder of Whole Life Solutions, a coaching and consulting company helping clients create order inside and out. She specializes in coaching for professionals at a turning point, and is an experienced relationship counselor, workshop facilitator, and public speaker. She likes cookies. A lot. The kind you eat. Schedule a free consultation with her here: www.WholeLifeSolutions.biz