Flip It - How To Make Big Decisions
Oh, Flip It.
I’m going to share a secret with you. It’s a really big one. I’m going to tell you how to decide what to have for lunch. Which shirt to wear. What job to take. Who you should marry.
Yup, that’s right. I’m telling you to make one of the biggest decisions of your life by flipping a coin. And here’s why:
In my years as a coach, I’ve found one thing that virtually all of my clients have in common - across age, ethnicity, background, and regardless of the specific circumstances that led them to me:
They don’t trust their ability to make the ‘right’ decisions.
Now, this is at the heart of our work - and it’s sometimes a long and involved process that involves exploring age-old patterns and blocks, and looking at different styles of decision-making, and trying things out in situations of greater and lesser impact until, after a few months, we learn to trust ourselves again. But what I have found is that if there is one decision in particular - you know the one - that you’ve been wrestling with for months and months—the one that you’ve played out every which way, you’ve researched, you’ve talked about it with your spouse/mom/bestie like a broken record, and you’re still wavering—then flip. a. coin.
Here’s why: when you’re still indecisive after consciously evaluating all sides of a situation, then chances are, it just is a complicated, multi-faceted, shades of grey dilemma. It means there is no ‘right’ answer. It means whatever you consciously choose will be okay. And once that choice is made, your time will be freed up to actually pursue the path, rather than standing squarely in the paralyzing angst of indecision.
Plus, there’s a good chance that once that coin lands, whatever side it’s on will set off a little inner voice, that will clearly tell you, if you listen closely, whether it landed on the ‘right’ side or not.
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